Couples Therapy

“Well, this isn’t what we planned.”

Most couples don’t come to therapy because everything is going great. Seeking therapy might be one of the hardest things you’ve done as a couple, but it’s also the bravest.

Getting to this point is not necessarily a “failure.” There’s a reason most romance movies end at the marriage or commitment moment: the rest of the relationship is so much more complicated.

We don’t stop growing and changing simply because we have committed to be a couple. We can grow together or grow apart, and both are okay. Please hear that; both are okay.

Feeling like marriage (or life) has changed you or your partner? Is having a family or choosing not to have a family keeping you awake at night? Are you constantly wondering what your partner is doing on their phone? These are all questions couples have brought to therapy.

“Did we have the same plan in the first place?”

Beginning therapy can feel scary, but after a few sessions, I hope you feel like it’s a place of relief for the weight you’ve been carrying.

As a married person, I know how hard it is to stay connected to your partner in the wake of career changes, bringing children into the mix, and the stress that comes with each other’s families. When my dad was diagnosed with cancer and later died, it didn’t just affect me in isolation. It affected my husband, our new baby, and my in-laws.

When my husband became laid off during the pandemic, it didn’t just happen to him; it happened to us. We needed to work together to get through these tough times, and therapy gave us a metaphorical road map to help us navigate our thoughts, feelings, and actions.

Utilizing a foundation of cognitive behavior couples therapy, you’ll learn about yourself and your partner. Exploring how your past impacts your present and how you respond to stress leads to a deeper understanding of each other, which can lead to a stronger connection.

Throw away the plan.

So, what happens in couples therapy? First, you will individually complete paperwork to share your history and perspective on what’s bringing you here. From there, we’ll come together and agree upon a goal as a couple and a plan for getting there.

The two of you can choose the best setup for you and your schedules. We’ll meet virtually, which can mean all of us in separate spaces or the two of you in one space together. Beginning each session with breath practice allows us to transition into the therapy space, focus our attention, and remember our intention for therapy.

Depending on your goals as a couple, you may leave sessions with some “homework.” Our breath practice will be a resource you can use whenever you need self-care. No one plans for life to be complicated. Throw away the plan and live a more connected and loving life.

There’s no day but today.

Schedule a free 15-minute phone call to get started here.